The marvelous Art of Erotic Spanking isn’t just about the delicious anticipation we feel before sessions or the fun we have as they unfold. To create spanko memories we can look back upon with fondness, we must also consider how to handle our kinky, intimate connections once the spanking is over. At this stage, aftercare is our most valuable tool. What is aftercare? Aftercare is the process of providing emotional, mental, and physical support to our partners after kinky sessi

Art by Louis Malteste A lot of us spankees wear bruises from our play partners like jewelry. Marks can be a point of pride or bring about...

Another gem from Louis Malteste Ideally, the spanko scene would be a safe, supportive community full of respectful kinksters looking to make magic together. While a lot of lovely folks do fit that bill, there’s a non-negligible chunk who are poorly adjusted at best and dangerous at worst. Like any sector of society, the BDSM world harbors abusive types like narcissists, sociopaths, scammers, and pedophiles—I’ve encountered all of the above. Getting entangled with such a perso

Kinky art by John Willie This cockamamie internet thing we’re all addicted to didn’t exist yet when I was a kid and has transformed our...

Finding great partners to spank with is one of the hardest things about this fetish. Plenty of people in the world will play with you if you ask them to, but not all of them are safe, respectful, or fun. Getting entangled with the wrong people can have serious consequences in the kink scene. We spankos must learn to identify and get our needs met with partners who are capable of maintaining healthy connections. Over the years, I’ve taken note of perspectives and behaviors th

Illustration by Louis Malteste, drawn for the French erotic novel 'Monsieur Paulette et Ses Épousesis'. When I first started doing BDSM,...

So you’ve got a hot date coming up with someone who wants a spanking? That is so cool. Best news ever. I’ve done that many times and if you’d like some tried-and-true tips on how to guide your spankee through a great experience, this post is for you. I imagine you already know there’s more to The Illustrious Art Of Erotic Spanking than merely slapping an ass. Any brute can wallop, but if a kinkster wants you to spank them, they’re likely seeking more nuance. In addition to p

Image source: Louis Malteste I’ve been in possession of a spanking fetish for as long as I can remember. This isn’t something I chose and...

Image source: Ostra Studio Sometimes the rhythmic crack of steady slappage is the only soundtrack we need to enjoy a good spanking between kinky adults. Other times, however—particularly when we’ve got neighbors nearby and want to muffle the sounds of our sadomasochistic fun—music is preferable. So the question then becomes, “What shall we put on?” Which tunes are most likely to create desirable vibes? Experience has taught me great spanking music fosters an atmosphere that

Art by Louis Malteste An unspanked bare bottom is a splendid blank canvas. Whenever I’ve got one over my lap, I’m overcome with a robust...