If you’re lucky enough to have found another spanko to play with, you might be fishing for ideas on how to spend the rare moments when you’re not at home smacking butts. Gotta go out for air and sunlight occasionally!

This world offers us endless opportunities to maximize mischief with our kinky partners in crime. Here are 18 date ideas that will both strengthen your bond and inspire you to rush home so you can get back to reddening rears.   

1. Go to a sexy museum.

You’re likely to see butts at any historical art exhibition, but some museum collections are more explicit than others. See if you and your spanko pal can find some erotic art to inspire your imaginations. Here are some spicy destinations to consider:

• The Museum of Sex (Miami & NYC)

• The Vagina Museum (London) - recently saved from financial doom!

• The Penis Museum (Reykjavík)

• The World Erotic Art Museum (Miami Beach)

• The Sex Machines Museum (Prague)

• The Erotic Heritage Museum (Las Vegas)

• The Erotic Museum (Amsterdam)

• The Sexmuseum Venustempel (Amsterdam)

• The Erotic Museum (Barcelona)

2. Take a spanky car ride.

If your vehicle has a big enough backseat, an empty parking lot or quiet street is a spanko destination in itself. Few things are more nerve-racking for a spankee than being ordered into the car with no idea where you’re going, only to be driven far away from society where no one can hear you scream. Saving hard spankings for car trips is also a great way to avoid noise complaints from neighbors. Be sure to pack a compact paddle in the glove compartment. 

3. Stage an outdoor photo session.

There is something especially special about spanking in nature. Anywhere secluded will do, so take a hike. See if you can find an old-timey spot with abandoned barns, ruins, or other ancient aesthetics. Add in costumes and a couple props and you’ve got yourself a photo session. Set up your tripod somewhere remote and get to smackin’ before some unsuspecting hiker happens upon you.  

4. Do a risque library reading.

They say no one loves libraries anymore, but who are THEY to speak for YOU?! For some of us, these old book temples hold a special place in our spanko hearts, as libraries are where we went as kids to sneak a peek at our favorite word in the dictionary... 

Of course, dictionaries aren’t the only library books with spanking hidden inside. Some have whole scenes described in detail. Why not take one off the shelf, lead your spanko partner to a secluded wing, and read to them in low whispers? You can transport their mind, immersing them in disciplinary visions right there in public with vanillas nearby. How embarrassing. The threat of being overheard and shushed by a scary librarian may be enough to have your partner dragging you home, begging to bring those fictional scenes to life. 

Need ideas for books to borrow? In her blog A Girl Gone Bad, Kellyn Mitchell has a whole long list of books that contain spanking scenes, including My Lady Notorious, The Sea Master, and Burning Secrets.

5. Go antiquing.

Hunting for secondhand spanking implements at antique shops offers us satisfaction on a number of levels. There’s the hunt itself, which culminates into a climax when our keenly trained eyes snap to the familiar sight of an old frat paddle or hairbrush. Then there’s the imagined backstory of each item. “Who owned this and why? Did it spank any bare bottoms?” Finally, we contend with the reaction of the cashier at the counter. Any euphemistic quips on our purchase of choice? Will you let them in on what you’ll be using it for, nudge nudge wink wink?

6. Watch sexy dancers.

Sexy dancing involves undulating hips and round bottoms swaying to and fro. If that doesn’t make you want to spank back at home, I am not sure what will, friend. Such dancing can be found at places like burlesque shows and Moroccan restaurants featuring pretty belly dancers named Zahira. For a more masculine experience, see if you can somehow catch a live performance from Hot Men Dance, described in this YouTube video thusly:

“Hot Men Dance (HMD) is one of the most sought-after male revue dance groups in the entertainment industry. The group was founded in 2014 by Pietro Jackson, the world champion of revue dance in 2016. Since then, they have become one of Europe's most renowned and multi-award-winning male revue dance formations in the international entertainment industry. Their performances combine show dance and modern dance, while showcasing kindness, humor, eroticism, elegance, wildness, and professionalism. The sexy and handsome guys sing, dance, and complement the interactive show with acrobatic elements. They promise carefree entertainment for the audience.”

Holy shit. Who could decline? Come to my quaint suburban beach town, @HMD!

7. Take a dance class. 

Rather than watching sexy dancing, why not give it a go yourself? Latin and ballroom dance classes require participating couples to take hold of each other’s supple bodies and twirl lustily around the room while staring each other down with dusky eyes. After an hour of this, hands grasping your partner’s hips, waist, and back, you will be ready to head home and paint cheeks.

8. Take a kink-themed class. 

If you live in an area with a vibrant kink scene, take your partner to a local class and learn new skills together. You can practice rope bondage, wax, leather, role play, or even spanking itself. Doing intimate kinky things with your partner alongside others can be thrilling and arm you with nifty new ideas to take home. 

9. Attend a play party. 

If you two really like kinking in front of an audience, play parties are the place for you. Take your partner to an event, find a nice free spot, pull them over your knee, and spank them ‘til they’re snuggly and sore. These are great venues for meeting other exhibitionistic adults who hold The Art of Spanking in high regard. You might even travel with your partner to one of the big national parties, like Oasis in Las Vegas, the Texas All-State Spanking Party, or the Georgia Spanking Party. 

10. See a professional together. 

By that, I mean a disciplinarian. The highly qualified kind who spanks for a living. Experienced disciplinarians will know exactly how to handle you and your partner, regardless of which role you play. Let them teach you a lesson or three. If you're both down to sub, you can go home with two pink bottoms instead of one. Too cute for words. 

Not sure who to contact? Check out Lady Jose, Miss Chris, or Gin of the Smiles and Spanks blog—all highly regarded pros in the spanko scene.

11. Eat at a restaurant with staff who spank.

There are restaurants out there where “finish your food” is more than a suggestion. At the Heart Attack Grill in Vegas, a terrifying nurse will come strap your (clothed) fanny if you don’t manage to stuff every bite of your burger down your throat. The Hofbrauhaus will also paddle your bent-over bum if you order their “shot paddle” (6 shots included), you rowdy frat boy. At the Masoch Cafe in Lviv, all diners are made to bend over and take light whippings from the waitresses. Take your spanko partner to all these places and get them in trouble in front of those scary staff people. 

12. Go buy sexy things together. 

Shopping for hot gear is always more fun with the company of a kinky friend. Go find some classy lingerie together. Hunt down some drop-seat PJs. Peruse all the fun toys at the local sex shop, including their spanky implements. Try not to get carried away while testing toys out in public or everyone around you will get super jelly. 

13. Draw some naked people. 

Looking at butts is a cherished pastime you and your spanking partner almost certainly share. You can do this together at a life drawing class with a nude model. Typically, a number of poses are held by the model for a predetermined amount of time, during which you get to draw or paint your interpretation of what you see, adding your own artistic flare. Then you can hang it on the fridge when you get home.

I used to work as a nude art model and should warn you, the vibe at these sessions tends to be rather serious, so keep it classy while admiring the sloping and voluptuous curves before you. Don't make it weird.

14. Find a nude beach.

Together, you can warm up your buns in the sun, allowing each other a feast for the eyes before you go home to turn up the heat. If you get impatient, you might walk down the beach and find a private cove away from curious eyes… for spankings. Just be mindful of any non-consenting beach-going folks around you. The general public doesn't tend to find pink butts and bruises quite as cute as we do. (So weird, I know.)

15. See an erotic film, or several. 

One can always Netflix & chill at home, but public titillation can be a powerful tool for creating anticipation. If you and your spanking partner are courageous and pervy, you might check out an adult movie theater where pornographic films are shown. (I’m not brave enough for this. Tell me how it goes.) You could also attend an erotic film festival like HUMP!, SECS Fest, or CineKink in NYC. Nothing like watching porn with a crowd.

16. Find a loud, seedy bar for subtle public play.

You and your spanko date can get up to all kinds of silly, covert shenanigans in the midst of a tipsy party crowd. You could have them secretly wear a remote-controlled vibrator and operate it while they attempt to engage in polite conversation with some rando. Slip into roleplay and quietly talk to them like you’re their college professor or strict boss or scary nun or whatever suits your fancy. If you’re into D/s protocol, give them rules to follow, like leaving decisions up to you or only speaking when spoken to. Get creative, but keep it discreet. That is where the fun lies.

17. Attend an erotic storytelling show.

Bawdy Storytelling, a traveling theater group in the U.S., has featured “true stories of sex, kink, body image, gender and more to build community, educate, entertain, and bring people together” for nearly two decades. See if you can catch them in your town to hear them spin some sexy yarns.

You could also hit up an adult open mic event where participants share their most salacious experiences with the audience. What scandalous stories could you and your spanko date tell a captive crowd?

18. Build a big-booty snowperson. 

Those of you living in cold places can take your partner on a walk and build a snowperson with a big spankable bum. After smoothing out the cheeks, you can give each a smack to leave evidence of its naughtiness. And while you’re there in the privacy of the wilderness, give your partner a spanking, as snow is quick and effective for soothing the heat of burning cheeks. 

Aren’t these marvelous ideas? I think they’re plump with potential for sexy times. Enjoy your adventures, spankos!

-T